We mothers need no telling: we naturally step up for our children, their husbands, and their homes. We anticipate everyone’s needs and attend to tasks without being asked. We say “I’ve got this” as instinct. That’s why we’re often labeled “Super.”

But when everyone has learned to lean on us, we begin to believe we must always project strength while hiding our own weaknesses.

Moms, there is a skill we need to grow in for our own wellness: asking for help. Here’s why.

“It takes a village to raise a child” is not just a catchphrase we see and post online. It is reality. A mom’s village is made up of real people we can ask for help. They allow us to breathe and rest even for a while. 

We don’t live in the days when mothers are expected to do it all anymore, ending each night worn out with nothing left to give. We are meant to live our days still feeling like ourselves, caring for our own well-being while caring for the people we love.

There will be days when we cannot do the laundry or do the dishes. And that’s okay. We can ask someone to step in. We can focus on our work, our priorities, and the things only we can do for a day. We need and deserve time and space for ourselves, too.

Yes, we may have never felt tired like this before, but exhaustion was never meant to be the badge we wear for the rest of our lives just to be called a good mother.

Motherhood is a learning curve. There will be heavy days and light days. But if every day is painted with burnout and depletion, we must take the next step to not let it continue. 

Motherhood requires all of us, but not 100% of us all the time. We are allowed to rest, because resting does not make us less devoted. It allows us to keep showing up.

People will not always be available, and that’s also okay. On days when we feel we’re on your own, let’s remind ourselves that this season will not last forever. We can call. We can message. We can make sure we are heard.

Even when physical help is not immediately there, emotional, mental, and spiritual support can still surround us. We are not meant to carry everything silently, for the strongest mothers aren’t the ones who carry everything, but the ones who know when to put something down.